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Vol. 4 No. 5, Sep/Oct 2002 ******* Copyright 2002 by Wolf
J. Rinke
mailto:WolfRinke@aol.com ************* http://www.WolfRinke.com
IN THIS ISSUE
1. NEWS YOU CAN USE
2. THE 8 PRINCIPLES FOR ACHIEVING INNER PEACE, PART II
3. FEEDBACK FROM READERS
4. HUMOR BREAK
5. ABOUT THE EDITOR
6. PRIVACY STATEMENT AND SUBSCRIPTION INFORMATION
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INSIGHT BREAK
"There is no such a thing as try.
Just do it and you'll find out why,"
--Wolf J. Rinke
Source: Make It a Winning Life, Perpetual desk calendar, Sept. 24
(Get your own and SAVE-see below.)
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1. NEWS YOU CAN USE
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BEING POSITIVE WILL HELP YOU LIVE 7.5 YEARS LONGER
According to a 25-year longitudinal study of 660 people conducted at
Yale University a positive attitude about old age was more important
than wealth, gender and even cholesterol levels in determining how long
people lived. In fact people who had positive self-perceptions about
aging lived 7.5 years longer than those who dreaded the thought.
ACTION STEPS:
Read the story about 94-year-old marathon runner Dr. Ruth Bennett in
Chapter 5 of my book: "Make It a Winning Life." You will find
positive tools and inspiration that will help you "enjoy your age."
(That was the button Dr. Bennett was wearing when I interviewed her.
See her photo on p. 138.)
Source: B. L. Levy, et al. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,
2002, 83 (2), 261-270, 2002.
DEPRESSED? PILLS DON'T WORK!
Eighty percent of the 14 million people who suffer from depression take
antidepressants such as Prozac or Paxil and only 40% get benefits from
them. And of those, 60-70% relapse after they get off the medication!
Plus pills have nasty side effects such as loss of sexual interest.
The fact is that pills don't provide you with new skills that enable
you to deal more effectively with future bouts of depression. At best
they will make you temporarily feel better.
ACTION STEPS:
If you are suffering from serious depression, which means your depression
persists for at least two weeks, get help. One of the most effective
treatment modalities is cognitive therapy (CT). It will teach you how
to replace your negative thoughts with more positive empowering thinking
patterns. To locate a CT therapist in your area go to www.academyofct.org.
If you are suffering from less serious depression-like the Blues, anxiety
or stress; give yourself a daily positive pick-me-up with my perpetual
desk calendar-see below.
Source: The Washington Post-Health, 9/3/02, pp. F1 &F5.
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2. THE 8 PRINCIPLES FOR ACHIEVING INNER PEACE, PART II
By Wolf J. Rinke, PhD, CSP
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In Part I (see www.WolfRinke.com) we talked about the first four principles
that will enable you to achieve inner peace:
1. Be honest.
2. Think empowering thoughts.
3. Take advantage of the abundance all around you.
4. Take really great care of #1.Here are the other four:
5. Become your own creator.
Steven Spielberg is a genius at creating exciting realities. You can
be your own Steven Spielberg; once you realize that there is no reality
there is only perception. (No, I have not lost it.) Let me explain with
a wonderful story:
A young man was interviewing for his dream job. He had done his homework.
He spent hours on the Internet learning all he could about the company
and the people that would interview him. He had read the last three
annual reports and knew the company's mission, vision and core values
by heart. In short he was ready to ace this interview. On the big day,
he entered the lobby of the impressive corporate headquarters and had
to check in with the security guard to get his visitor badge. Wanting
to leave no stone unturned he said to the elderly gentleman behind the
desk: Sir I'm interviewing for my dream job today. Tell me about the
people at this company, what are they like? The elderly man replied
with a question: Tell me young man, what were the people like at the
last company you worked for? Oh, they were deceitful, unsupportive,
and mean. There simply was no vestige of teamwork or joy. In fact that's
why I left.
Well-the security guard answered-I believe you will find the same kind
of people here.
Just about an hour later the scene repeated itself all over again. Except
this time it was a young lady who was also interviewing for the same
job. She too had done all her homework and wanted to make a great impression,
and so she too asked the security guard. What are the people like around
here? In turn he asked: What were they like were you came from. The
vivacious young lady answered: Oh, I just loved the people at my former
company. They were kind, supportive and hard working. Everyone worked
together as a team. We cared so much for each other that I developed
some of the best friendships at my former company. It's really a shame
that the company is relocating to China. I just hate to leave all those
wonderful people behind.
Well-the wise old man answered-I believe that you will find the same
kind of people here.
6. Let go of the past.
It's amazing how much we spend in a place over which you and I have
absolutely no control-the past. It was Dr. Wayne Dyer who likened our
past to a bag of manure, which we carry around with us, and keep putting
more and more manure into the bag. Once in a while we put the bag down,
reach in and smear manure all over us. And then we wonder why our life
stinks. Part of what we carry around in our bag is resentments, hate
and blame. All of these emotions will attack your soul and diminish
the quality of your spirit and your physiology. Go ahead pay tribute
to your past. Visit it. And then toss it in the trash. You can make
that happen by taking ownership of all that is going on in your life.
Your life is not a function of what other people have done; it is today
what it is because of the choices you've made in the past. And if your
feelings of resentment, hate and blame are attributed to the actions
of others then you have to wait for those people to change-which may
never happen. And don't even try to change them! Think, how many of
us have a difficulty changing ourselves, let alone others. So live by
the axiom: IF IT IS TO BE IT IS UP TO ME. Once you've done that, you
are ready to take it to the next level, by substituting the emotions
of love, empathy and kindness for resentment, hate and blame. Setting
you free once and for all. And while you are at it, force yourself to
get off your case, quit living in the past, and become future oriented
by learning from every action. If the action empowered you keep doing
it. If the action did not accomplish the intended result, review what
happened; make a commitment to do it differently in the future, and
then let it go. I mean really let it go. Get on with life by refocusing
your thoughts on the only moment you and I have any control, the now.
7. Kill your ego.
Ego, right along with greed and envy, is one of the most powerful destroyer
of inner peace. A look at history confirms that these emotions are responsible
for more evil-think Napoleon, Stalin and Hitler-and more corporate failures-think
Enron, Arthur Anderson and WorldCom-as well as relationship killers
than any other emotions I know. And yet we can get rid of our ego with
just five powerful phrases, expressed liberally and from the heart.
Here they are:
- You are right about that. Any time you get into a conflict use this
phrase and you will have NO conflict-guaranteed!
- I've made a mistake. This phrase helps you get off your high horse
gracefully. All human beings make mistakes-and since you are a…I
think you get it. There is only one omnipotent force in the universe-and
it is not you. So quit defining unrealistic expectations for yourself.
- I changed my mind. It's been said that women have cleaner minds
then men because they change them often. (Okay, enough with the stereotypes.)
You are an evolving human being, one who is like red wine and gets
better all the time-that means you have to let go of your past beliefs.
(Remember that the only person who can change his/her mind is the
one who has one.)
- I don't know. Admit it, you don't know everything. It lets other
people know that you have high levels of self-esteem. (Only people,
who are okay inside of their own skin, can admit that they don't know
everything.)
- Lets agree to disagree. The phrase to use if all else fails.
8. Never give up on your dreams.
The purpose of life is not to make it safely to the grave. Pursue your
dreams no matter how late or how weird. Let me share an example. Doris
Haddock had a passion. She felt that Congress needed to get off their
duff and change the campaign finance laws! Unlike most of us, however
Doris did not sit around and complain and whine. Instead, Doris started
to walk in the spring of 2000 from Pasadena, CA. Walking 10 miles a
day, every day until 14 months, 3,200 miles later she arrived in Washington,
DC. Now, here comes the startling part of the story. Doris, better known
as Granny D, had a severe case of arthritis, wore a brace and turned
90 years "young" while on the trail. And for an added measure
she got arrested twice demonstrating for her beliefs. Why? Because she
had a dream and a passion. So whatever you do, don't ever give up on
your dreams. Get off your butt and act on your dreams today, and you
too will be on the road to achieving the most coveted of all possessions-inner
peace.
Source: This is from my upcoming book. "Beat the Blues: 7 Steps
to Pick Yourself Up When You are Feeling Down." Pub. date early
2003.
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3. FEEDBACK FROM READERS
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Dear Mr. Rinke,
I've just read your message about HOPE and I must be honest: it has
helped me. I don't want you to think I'm kind of an "apple polisher"
(sorry about that), it's just that your letter is a light (even if it
looks like a dim one right now) at the end of the tunnel. I really hope
our politicians and leaders do not do any kind of wrong thing and that
the whole population of the world avoid any kind of harmful feelings,
because we MUST believe in good things right now. I'm from Brazil and
I'm really concerned and worried about what is going on these days and
I just wanted to give you my opinion. (Although it may not sound so
creative or new - not to mention my English mistakes).
Using your daughter's words, "thank you", for giving us something
to believe in.
Sincerely,
Fernando, Brazil
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4. HUMOR BREAK
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You Know You're Old When...
You sit in a rocking chair and can't get it going.
You burn the midnight oil until 9:00 P.M.
You are 17 around the neck, 42 around the waist, and 96 around the
golf course.
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5. ABOUT THE EDITOR
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Dr. Wolf J. Rinke, CSP is an internationally recognized motivational
and management keynote speaker and seminar leader who delivers customized
presentations that combine story telling, humor and motivation with
specific "how to" action strategies that participants can
apply immediately to improve their personal and professional lives.
He is also a highly effective management consultant, executive coach
and author of 12 books including: "Make It a Winning Life: Success
Strategies for Life, Love and Business" available at www.WolfRinke.com
To take advantage of Dr. Rinke's services call 800-828-9653 or mailto:WolfRinke@aol.com
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